Men. Read this. Stop derailing the conversation.

Guys. Read this. #NotAllMen: How Not to Derail Discussions of Women’s Issues via @BadAstronomer

Violence against women is a real issue. Nobody is saying all men are bad. The point is women live in fear of being injured by men. It’s a real problem.

So stop trying to hijack the conversation and start helping.

Georgia Tech fraternity suspended for culture of violence against women.

Phi Kappa Tau at Georgia Tech

Phi Kappa Tau at Georgia Tech

Only men can stop rape on campus. It’s time to stand up and be a man.

The actual details are worse than reported, but it’s important to celebrate small victories. The Phi Kappa Tau fraternity has been suspended. It took to long. But better late than never comes to mind.

Georgia Tech suspended Phi Kappa Tau fraternity today. The 11 Alive news story makes it sound like the fraternity was suspended related to the earlier rape email. The actual situation was much worse. The investigation uncovered a long standing culture of sexual assault.

There are even actual sexual assault reports.

The campus newspaper published minutes from fraternity meetings. Songs, jokes and other incredible meeting minutes demonstrate a culture that was obvious in the October rape email.

Read the graphic meeting minutes for yourself if you think it’s just “boys being boys.”

Imagine if the fraternity was banned years ago? Daughters would have been saved. But, somehow it was okay. Business as usual.

To be fair to GT. This isn’t a GT issue. The CDC reports 20 percent of college women are sexually assaulted at college. As campus reporting continues to improve the details may be enough to cause enough outrage or lost federal funding to change make behavior.

It’s time to stand up and be a man. Only men can stop rape on campus.


Why are you working on a rape project?

Many of you wonder why I’m working on disrupting rape on campus. I’m doing it because the colleges don’t care that 1 in 5 of your daughters are raped while attending college. It happens at every school. It would be nice to be able to choose a school that values safety. But that rape report doesn’t exist, yet. 


It will. That’s why I’m developing a solution to disrupt rape on college campus. It should be a crime. If rape happens in a dark alley with a knife. It’s a crime. If it happens on campus, it’s an administrative discipline issue at best.

The personal stories are heart wrenching but the responses from colleges, campus police, men most disturbingly from women are often outrageous. Here’s a story from Harvard.

Ask yourself the following question: Who’s at fault?  

Scenario 1 – A man walks into a bar and buys a woman he knows a few drinks.  He sees that she is intoxicated, so he offers to take her safely home.  She wakes up in the morning, raped.  Who’s at fault?

Scenario 2 – A man walks into a bar and buys a man he knows a few drinks. He sees that he is intoxicated, so he offers to take him safely home.  He wakes up in the morning, raped?  Who’s at fault?

Everybody gets the answer right on Scenario 2: The man shouldn’t have been raped.  The interesting, unsettling question is why isn’t scenario 1 as clear?  Did she do something to deserve to be raped?  A lot of people I’ve interviewed seem to think that Scenario 1 has gray areas that need clarified before they can answer.  It doesn’t need clarification.  Consent is the same, only the gender is different.

Sex without consent is rape, often called sexual assault because it sounds better.  rape is rape no mater where it happens or to whom.

One in five women are raped during their college education. That’s 20% or a shocking 6 million women every 5 years.  Incredible, unfortunately it isn’t a crime if you are college co-ed, it’s an administrative issue that is unresolved because it is usually unreported. Or the college doesn’t care to report. Title iX guarantees a safe environment and colleges would lose federal funding if they reported. Another part of the problem is that sexual assault is part of the college experience.  So, why report rape if nothing is going to happen?

Guys, you need to get involved.

This is a crime perpetrated by men.  Don’t be an accessory to the crime, be a hero and stop rape.  It’s a crime, even when it happens in college.

That’s whey I’m working on a solution to disrupt rape.